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HOW DO I FIND A WIFE? lol
Assalamun alaikum,
ok so i've read and talked about alot of stuff that goes on in marriage, but my time is gonna come soon InshaAllah, and before i get into alot of discussions, i wana know something.
How exactly should a brother approach a muslimah to tell her that he wants to take that step? or is there no approaching lol.
i know most marriages happen through parents and turn out great, but im asking based on the situation where the parents let you choose and they will approve.
also, how would you actually 'search' for your future wife if you dont have anybody in mind that you know, because i've seen too many times some guy goin up to a girl and try to chat with her and he gets turned away lol.
sorry if i havnt put my question clearly, its a hard topic 
29 Oct 2008, 12:58 pm
Or you could always become a doctor and then they would find you. 
29 Oct 2008, 1:06 pm
29 Oct 2008, 1:30 pm
yes this works alot of time..or you could simple ask YOUr sisters to help you find a good righteous wife inshallah.
good luck budds..may allah help u with ur research!
29 Oct 2008, 1:59 pm
LOL true i didnt try to look at the womens point of view but ur right, they are gonna go after the better off one.
i would ask my parents no doubt, but comon...im not really interested in my cousin 
plus i heard its a bad thing for pregnancy if you have a long chain of marrying cousins in your family. + i dont really want a freshie cuz my first language is english lol but intermediate urdu
i can ask my friends but they will point me towards materialistic women lol, hence why i would like advice on trying to find my own future wife myself.
ya Darvis bro, thats a bad thing about marriage sites, u duno if people are being real, plus sitting on a computer trying to think about what kinda person you are can lead to alot of false information, in my opinion.
Jazak Allah for the replys, keep em comin if you can 
29 Oct 2008, 2:07 pm
ameen
i would ask my sister, but again she would also point me to the girls that im not looking for heh,
IM GONNA HAVE TO LOOK FOR MISS LUCKY LADY MYSELF!! lol
29 Oct 2008, 2:14 pm
29 Oct 2008, 2:22 pm
and Ask Allah and be patient.....Simple
29 Oct 2008, 2:33 pm
ya, after dealing with this finding a wife topic i have realized its not easy to keep pure intentions.
Jazak Allah for the replies everyone
29 Oct 2008, 2:36 pm
LOL just kidding
some masjids run these matrimonial things. ask the imam to enquire about a sister wanting to marry
29 Oct 2008, 3:30 pm
how to, where to, ermm, very hard question, i never know how to answer this question.
when u found one. how to approach? another question. ask her or her relative? how about if you are shy? another question, haha
to be honest, i cant answer your question brother, and im sorry to make a mess here, lol.
29 Oct 2008, 3:31 pm
LOL no prob brother....how to approach...let me find one first lol now i got more to question about lol
hmm that majid service might be worth looking at, but i've never seen any masjid do that around here, ill look it up, Jazak Allah
thx for that lecture brother, its nice ill listen to it all soon as its a bit long.
29 Oct 2008, 4:25 pm
astaghfirAllah dont ever say you want to be like those waste people
29 Oct 2008, 5:21 pm
non taken.
29 Oct 2008, 6:12 pm
That is exactly what I will do!
"28 year old Muslim man in need of a wife. Call 217-***-*** if interested."
29 Oct 2008, 9:10 pm
...Jump into the ocean, and hope you get lucky.
29 Oct 2008, 9:18 pm
dont get me wrong i knwo prophet encouraged marry young
but he did get maried at 25
a lot of young ppl get married and then the divorce, i think its to do withthe fact there not mature enough
and how to get a wife, on your own, you have to speak and interact withthe person you wish to marry.
you cannot be shy, yes uthman was shy, its gud to have hayaa
but you have to have the courage also to know who you are going to marry, and lastly it doesnt matter if you are tuned down, it is for the good, allah has chosen that for the better,
you just try again
hope if i have said anything wrong allah forgives me
29 Oct 2008, 9:18 pm
You shouldn't apologize because other people are serious all the time. Tell them to smile more. Really, its fun.
29 Oct 2008, 10:45 pm
Walaikum salam
Yeah it's kinda confusing for us sisters too, I mean sitting around and waiting for someone to be like "oh i want you to be my wife" isn't that much fun either
, alhamdulilah it wasn't exactly like that for me, hehe.
The doctor thing... forget about that (unless you're trying to, but dont just to get married, hehe) Do what you want with your career and such, seriously, be happy. Insha'allah you still have a long life ahead of you. Its gonna happen when it happens, and yes I know the waiting game isn't fun, but we can't control it really.
Yeah, I suppose not that good of advice, but anything can happen, I met my husband on here, hehe. He's the one who approached me actually. I do think this is better than a dating site as long as you aren't using it as such. The main reason is that women will see your views on certain issues and your level of iman, which is the most important.
May allah bless you with a happy wife and family soon, ameen.
Salam alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu,
Erin
30 Oct 2008, 2:35 am
